Do you like to wear low crotch jeans that are faded and ripped? Or maybe you enjoy wearing a man’s business shirt as a dress? Or you might like the shapeless blazer with shoulders that look like they were inspired by an American footballer’s armour. You may also like giant watches, saggy man-beanies or a thick leather belt. This apparel epitomizes the ‘boyfriend trend’ that is currently splashed through magazines, blogs and exhibited on many a fashionista. I can’t say I’m a fan.
Perhaps it’s because I was jaded from my first ‘boyfriend jean’ experience. It was not pretty. It looked almost as bad as I look in a jump suit (it’s no exaggeration to say in a jump suit, I look like a middle aged women, with a big bottom, who took the clown costume pattern and sewed it in a single coloured fabric). As I stood in the change room to admire these ‘boyfriend jeans’ I was saddened to find they didn’t make me look chic, hipster, cute or boyfriend-ish for that matter. They were tight across my hips/thighs and looked like a pair of boot leg jeans rolled up. There was no relaxed, oversized or just-hanging-on-by-the-massive-belt-I-am-wearing-look. Why? Because I have these things called HIPS people! Crazy I know, but like most of you girls, I’m not straight up and down and I have these God given beauties for some serious baby making.
Why do we want to dress like a man anyway? The majority of men are not attracted to men and I’m sure those that are, wouldn’t suggest women dress like men anyway. By no means am I saying we should determine our dress code by a man’s appetite, although like some of you, I do enjoy being attractive for my husband. Regardless of whether you want to impress a man or not, we still shouldn’t want to hide our beautiful curves in an attempt to be fashionable.
Love the way God made you. God is perfect and he didn’t make a mistake when he made your body shape. Psalm 139:13-16 (this version is from The Message) shows us this:
13-16 Oh yes, you shaped me first inside, then out;
you formed me in my mother’s womb.
I thank you, High God—you’re breathtaking!
Body and soul, I am marvellously made!
I worship in adoration—what a creation!
You know me inside and out,
you know every bone in my body;
You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit,
how I was sculpted from nothing into something.
Like an open book, you watched me grow from conception to birth;
all the stages of my life were spread out before you,
The days of my life all prepared
before I’d even lived one day.
Whilst I’m advocating wearing clothes which show our curves, I’m not saying go out with your bazooka’s (or ‘teeny tiny mosquito bites’ in my case) flailing, but rather dress in a way that is flattering, dignifying and reflects that you’re comfortable with your body.
‘But, these ‘boyfriend clothes’ are comfortable Amy!’ I hear some of you say. This is true. I’m wearing Reis’ track pants right now, but there is no way I would wear them outside the house or if anyone was around! There are clothes that are available that are both comfortable and embrace your body shape and femininity. If you’re not sure where to buy these for a reasonable price, or just don’t know what is flattering for your body type, feel free to comment below and I can help you out – I love a good shop!
Whilst Kate Middleton is very slim, she does dress beautifully and I think many of her A-line dresses would look good on most ladies. Particularly if your waist is your preferred point of emphasis.
I suppose I should add a caveat to this post – I do love my over-sized Michael Kors watch but I’m okay with that – I can still feminise it and I’m sure a man wouldn’t wear one with that much bling 😉